You know what you need!

You know exactly what you need - CLAIM IT!
This goes far beyond giving birth. This transcends our entire lives. All of the doubt and gaslighting surrounding maternal health care or just women’s reproductive healthcare in general has been in our minds and muscle memory forever. People don’t believe us, so we must always believe in ourselves, advocate for one another, and start to change to narrative.
In the bedroom
At work
With friends
With family
With spouses
At the doctor
During your birth. Even if it’s just to dim the lights, if that’s what you need - get it done.
Stop tip toeing around other people’s feelings and agendas. Because to be honest, they probably aren’t thinking about your feelings at all.